23 years old. Queer. New York. BA in Gender Studies. Germanophile, writer, reader (see my books here), feminist, runner, writer, lover, nerd. More about me :) In recovery from an eating disorder; living with PTSD. Trigger warnings always apply, please take gentle care. What's up, babycakes?
“He met some chick and rushed into marriage (so they could fuck, obviously). Then he posted this picture to prove that, while he isn’t ‘pure’, she is…. Yes. Yes. This is what you think it is.”
(Thanks Bitch From Philly)
Congratulations!!! You’ve expended your one and only valuable aspect: your hymen! Now Jesus can only use you as a breeding machine.
This is like gross on gross on so many levels. I’m not even talking about bodily fluids here. How gross to have such an intimate moment destroyed by some asshole dude? How gross to have your worth be determined by the state of a thin piece of tissue inside your body? How gross to be deemed unworthy or of no value if you, as a woman, if you do not have this thin piece of tissue in tact when some dudebro decides he’ll marry you just so he can fuck you? It ain’t about love or commitment. It’s about domination. It’s about some jackass rushing you into marriage so he could be the one to break that tissue. Why is this important? Why does this matter?
I am so disgusted and all I have to say to that woman is “GIRL RUN! GO! GET OUT!”
This is so beyond the bounds of what’s even remotely decent or acceptable human behavior. I’d like to emphasize everything already stated above and mention that a hymen, that thin useless piece of skin, can break extremely easily, long before one’s “virginity is lost.” So, if a hymen were to be broken prior to becoming sexually active, would one attribute as much of this perverted Christian celebration and idea of purity as seen above to one’s first sexual experience? Or is an in tact piece of skin all that matters?
This is inherently demeaning to all women and placing value on a woman based upon not only her previous sexual experiences but a thin piece of skin is beyond the bounds of reasonable or acceptable human conduct. To go so far as to make such a personal event public is depraved and it is quite evident that the individual who posted this image does not fully respect their partner. This gross power play that many men engage in needs to stop.
I’m so disgusted by this I can barely focus enough to form even one coherent thought.
Yeeeeah. I flipped my shit when a guy I knew did something like this in high school. He decided to take a picture and show it to all his buddies. I was outraged, wrote a blog post about it (on my babby feminist blog, I thought I was the coolest and edgiest evar), and most of my guy friends at the time were sort of puzzled as to why I was so incredibly offended.
It’s like “Hey look, I did physical damage to my partner when I stuck my dick in them! Isn’t that awesome?”. Or “Hey, she might be embarassed by this but who cares letting everyone know I had sex is way more important than her feelings”. Or “My woman is super pure unlike your dirty and slovenly women”.
It is all intensely degrading and humiliating. Like, seriously, guys who are all scared of feminists because they supposedly hate men, when dudes do shit like this and then other dudes don’t really call them out on it, I really see no reason why I shouldn’t hate you.
The last sentence. The bolding is mine. And I stand by that. Always.
srsly tho if you have cats we won’t work out
ever ever ever ever
you need to get rid of those cats
cats are a dealbreaker
like literally if ryan gosling and rachel maddow came and asked me to have a threesome marriage with them but a condition was that there would be cats i would not do it that is how much i hate cats
I would spend all day everyday suffering so no I’m not interested in living life in an allergy med induced haze
sigh. so exhausted. left to do tonight: quick tidy room. quick tidy downstairs. bed by one am please. up early to say hi to Mom, clean house, go downtown to post office & lunch with Jeff and then home to clean, bathe dog, shower again, and get ready for concert
Tonight, right now, over two thousand infuriated Irishmen and Women have gathered outside the Dáil in protest over the death of Savita Halappanavar, who died of septicaemia in Galway University Hospital after she had a miscarriage. They protest over our governements failure to legislate for the X Case.
This was a protest organised over a matter of hours. The response has been overwhelming.
Ireland needs a change. All these people are there to voice this chance.
This is what happens when health care is dictated by religious belief.
The outpouring of outrage over the death of a young woman denied proper care in Ireland is heartening.
This is a fucking outrage. “Abortion is illegal in the Republic except where there is a real and substantial risk to the life, as distinct from the health, of the mother.” And this is why legislators should not make decisions about medicine. Those decisions NEED to rest with doctors and their patients.
contemplate suicide on the train
get to work only to discover that my office is closed today and literally no one told me despite my emailing them my schedule in advance AND saying “see you Monday” last time I was at work
sob hysterically, alone, in Times Square
talk to boyfriend
buy books & Christmas cards
train home (cry)
fight with mom in car
and now I’m home.